Leadership is already demanding. But for high-achieving women of color, it often comes with a hidden cost. A cost no one openly talks about.
Beyond the meetings, deadlines, and KPIs, you carry an additional, invisible workload. It is the unspoken, unrecognized emotional labor of navigating bias, proving competence, supporting others, and smoothing over workplace dynamics.
In my dissertation research on Black women in senior leadership, nearly every participant shared stories of exhaustion. This exhaustion came not just from the demands of their role. It also stemmed from the unrelenting expectation to carry this additional emotional weight. The data was undeniable. These women were not only leading teams—they were managing unspoken cultural dynamics that others never even noticed.
Today, we’re going to unpack this invisible workload, name it, and most importantly, learn how to strategically redistribute it. Your leadership journey doesn’t have to come at the expense of your well-being.
What Is the Invisible Workload?
The “invisible workload” includes emotional, relational, and cultural labor. Women of color often perform these tasks in addition to their formal job duties.
It looks like:
- Being the unofficial diversity advocate, even when DEI is not your role.
- Mentoring colleagues who feel isolated or marginalized, simply because you’ve “been there.”
- Managing microaggressions with grace to avoid being labeled “angry” or “difficult.”
- Translating your words and emotions to fit dominant cultural norms in the workplace.
- Taking on organizational “glue work,” such as mediating conflicts or smoothing over tensions within teams.
These tasks are rarely listed in job descriptions. They don’t come with raises or recognition. Yet, they are essential for the success and emotional safety of others.
But who ensures your emotional safety?
Why Women of Color Carry the Burden
Dissertation data and contemporary research consistently show the challenges faced by women of color. Particularly, Black women often work in organizations where they are one of few who share their identity. In some cases, they may be the only person who does.
This “onlyness,” as Dr. Ella Bell Smith and Stella M. Nkomo describe in Our Separate Ways, creates a sense of responsibility. Many women feel compelled to speak up for equity. They also feel compelled to mentor the next generation. Additionally, they serve as role models—even when they are already stretched thin.
Stereotypes pressure women of color to absorb challenges silently. These include the “Strong Black Woman,” “Model Minority,” or “Caregiver.” You’re expected to show resilience, no matter the emotional cost.
It’s no wonder that research from the Journal of Organizational Behavior finds women of color in leadership experience disproportionately high levels of emotional exhaustion compared to their peers.
The Hidden Toll of Emotional Labor
The toll is real.
In my qualitative interviews with Black women leaders, participants described feelings of:
- Chronic exhaustion
- Emotional numbness
- Impostor syndrome
- Isolation
- Loss of passion for leadership
Many women of color find that, while they value mentoring, it can sometimes feel overwhelming. It can feel like they are carrying the hopes and dreams of others in addition to their formal job responsibilities.
It is common for women of color in leadership to be perceived as strong. They seem to handle everything. Yet beneath the surface, many are carrying deep and persistent fatigue.
The invisible workload is cumulative. It doesn’t show up on timecards, but it shows up in your body, emotions, and spirit. Left unaddressed, it leads to burnout—and burnout leads to turnover or worse, health complications.
Challenging Cultural Narratives Around Overwork
Many women of color have been conditioned—both by culture and survival—to believe that enduring is virtuous.
“Work twice as hard.”
“Keep your head down.”
“Never let them see you sweat.”
While resilience has its place, equating worth with overwork is dangerous. Over-functioning isn’t sustainable leadership—it’s self-sacrifice disguised as professionalism.
The truth?
You don’t have to “pay your dues” forever. You don’t have to save everyone. Sustainable leadership is possible without martyrdom.
Redistributing the Workload Without Losing Your Edge
You might wonder—“If I stop doing these things, won’t people see me as less committed?”
The answer: No. Strategic redistribution of emotional labor makes you a more effective leader, not less. Here’s how:
1. Name the Invisible Work
You cannot change what you will not name. Begin by identifying all the emotional labor you are currently carrying.
Make a list:
- How often are you mentoring others informally?
- Are you the default conflict manager?
- Do you mediate for underrepresented colleagues?
- Are you the cultural interpreter in meetings?
Seeing it on paper is validating. It also becomes the foundation for conversations about redistribution.
2. Share the Load Deliberately
Redistribution is not abandonment. It’s delegation with wisdom.
Mentoring
Yes, you want to mentor. But you don’t have to mentor everyone. Prioritize mentees who align with your capacity and your professional values. Help others find additional mentors to share the responsibility.
DEI Advocacy
If you are on multiple diversity committees, decide which ones are worth your time. Suggest rotating leadership or expanding the committee to include more diverse voices—including allies.
Conflict Mediation
Make sure your role as a leader does not automatically make you the workplace therapist. Encourage HR to step into formal conflict resolution when needed. Train your team to handle interpersonal challenges directly and respectfully without making you the default mediator.
3. Build Support Systems Beyond Work
Isolation is a burnout accelerant.
Women of color leaders need personal and professional support systems:
- Peer Support: Cultivate relationships with other women of color leaders. Research shows peer validation significantly reduces feelings of impostor syndrome and burnout.
- Therapeutic Spaces: You can engage with a culturally competent therapist, coach, or counselor. It is important to prioritize spaces where you can process the emotional weight you carry.
- Spiritual Practices: Many of the women in my research found refuge and restoration in their faith. Prayer, meditation, or spiritual community can be powerful sources of renewal.
4. Practice Boundary-Setting as Leadership
Boundaries are not barriers—they are leadership tools. They model sustainability to others.
Examples include:
- Declining new responsibilities that do not align with your role.
- Communicating capacity clearly: “I can take this on if we adjust other priorities.”
- Scheduling protected time on your calendar for deep work, reflection, or rest.
One leader shared during my research:
“When I started saying ‘no’ with kindness, people respected me more—not less. I showed them that my time was valuable.”
5. Educate Others on Emotional Labor
Many colleagues have no idea you’re carrying extra weight. This is an opportunity to create awareness—not resentment.
Consider:
- Sharing articles or research on emotional labor during leadership meetings.
- Advocating for equity audits that assess not only pay but workload distribution.
- Using storytelling to share your experience professionally and authentically.
6. Redefine Excellence
Excellence isn’t about being everything to everyone. It’s about intentionality, focus, and sustainable impact.
Ask yourself:
- What leadership legacy do I want to leave?
- Does my current workload align with that vision?
- What does excellence look like without self-sacrifice?
In my dissertation, women who redefined success beyond productivity experienced more joy, energy, and satisfaction—not less.
Creating Healthier Team Dynamics
This isn’t just about you—it’s about reshaping the system. A healthier organization shares emotional labor. Here are practical ways to foster this:
1. Normalize Emotional Intelligence
Train all employees—not just women of color—to practice empathy, active listening, and cultural competence. Make EQ a leadership competency for everyone.
2. Diversify Mentorship and Sponsorship
Create formal mentoring programs where responsibility is shared across genders, races, and roles. Don’t let women of color be the sole source of informal mentoring.
3. Make Equity Everyone’s Job
Integrate DEI into organizational strategy. Emotional labor related to belonging and inclusion should not be relegated to a few volunteers. Formalize it. Fund it. Share it.
4. Advocate for Psychological Safety
As a leader, create environments where team members feel safe to speak up. This is especially important for those from marginalized backgrounds. Encourage asking for help. Allow setting boundaries without fear of punishment.
Courage to Lead Differently
Redistributing the invisible workload takes courage. For many women of color, it feels uncomfortable at first. Saying “no,” setting limits, or redirecting labor may feel like you’re letting others down.
But here’s the truth:
The system is broken—not you. Carrying the weight alone isn’t leadership. It’s dysfunction.
You are worthy of support. You deserve to lead with energy and joy. Sustainable leadership isn’t just possible—it’s necessary.
Start Here: 5 Action Steps for This Week
- List all the invisible labor you’re currently carrying.
- Choose one task you will redistribute or decline this month.
- Set one new boundary—big or small.
- Reach out to a trusted peer for support.
- Reflect on what success looks like without self-sacrifice.
Final Reflection
High-achieving women of color are the backbone of many organizations. You bring brilliance, creativity, resilience, and wisdom. But you are not called to lead by depletion.
Leadership is not about carrying everything alone. It’s about building systems—personal and professional—that allow you to thrive.
When you lead well and live well, you give others permission to do the same. And that’s not just leadership—that’s legacy.
Suggested Reading
Check out these articles from our Archives for deeper insight:
- Redefining Success: The True Measure of Leadership for African American/Black Women
Learn how to create your own definition of high performance without compromising your peace. - Managing Work Stress and Burnout: Essential Techniques for Mental Health and Well-Being for African American Women and Women of Color
Practical and proven methods to protect your energy while leading effectively.
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Sneak Peek for Monday’s Blog Post
Up next, we will tackle one of the most unspoken leadership realities for women of color. There are silent expectations to lead flawlessly. This is true regardless of how little support you receive. Many women of color leaders are operating under immense pressure to “have it all together” without ever showing vulnerability. But what if vulnerability isn’t a weakness — but a necessary tool for sustainable leadership? In Monday’s post, we’ll explore how perfectionism impacts the leadership journeys of high-achieving women of color. We will also discuss unrealistic expectations. We’ll dive into how societal narratives shape our behaviors. These include organizational culture and even internalized beliefs. They lead many of us to over-function and suffer in silence. More importantly, you’ll learn practical strategies to disrupt this pattern. These strategies are compassionate and foster both personal well-being. They also promote professional excellence. It’s time to challenge the myth that you must be “perfect” to lead. You are already enough—and next week, you’ll discover why and how to lead with wholeness.